(hello guys.. please please share your views)
This was like 6mos ago. I don’t know if my views are wrong but maybe, i don’t know.. somebody told me that love is not enough for 2 people to be together.
Before my views.. ito na nga ang chikahan ng aking college seatmate.
jomaykulit:
dubai
ka ba?
graphics man: yup
jomaykulit: anjan si kath
graphics man: magiisang linggo na
graphics man: sinong kath?
jomaykulit: delacruz
graphics man: aok
graphics man: kelan pa?
jomaykulit: 2weeks
graphics man: may work na sya?
jomaykulit: uu
jomaykulit: langdon
graphics man: kasama nya family nya or magisa lang sya?
graphics man: good for her!!!
jomaykulit: dunno but i think she’s with a group
jomaykulit: company sent
graphics man: medyo malungkot kse dito kpag magisa ka lng
graphics man: walang masyado pupuntahan
jomaykulit: pero may kamaganak k nman jan db?
graphics man: ha?
graphics man: kasama ko sa bahay un ate ni sugar
jomaykulit: really..
jomaykulit: ?
jomaykulit: whcih reminds me
jomaykulit: single k ata sa fwenster….(wla lang.. mantsismis daw ba)
jomaykulit: hehe
graphics man: yes….
graphics man: I am
jomaykulit: nweiz
jomaykulit: u at wrk??
graphics man: nope….
graphics man: hindi me pumasok kse aayusin ko dapat un driving license ko kso hindi available un driver instructor ngayon
jomaykulit: hehe ako nsa wrk
jomaykulit: really?
jomaykulit: thats cool then
jomaykulit: josef got his drivers license too in guam
graphics man: sya nga pala where ka work?
graphics man: flor daniels?
graphics man: ayos ka rin ha!!!
graphics man: YM ka lng dyan
graphics man: Sa Flor Daniels ka dba work?
jomaykulit: yup
graphics man: may opening dyan dba?
jomaykulit: ksma ko mga gling jgc
graphics man: pwede ko ba bgay syo un CV ni sugar kse she is planning to change her work?
graphics man: ano ba gwa nyo dyan?
jomaykulit: actually, i already have her resume.. but she doesn’t have strcutural background…
jomaykulit: i told her that she can try foster and wheeler in
chatham
bldg..
jomaykulit: ksi atleast 1 yr exp ditto.. un sabi nila
graphics man: ganun ba?
jomaykulit: mostly steel des
jomaykulit: con fdn
jomaykulit: but i try forwarding her resume
jomaykulit: bk mkalusot
graphics man: thanks ha?
graphics man: mukhang lahat ata ng batch natin are going abroad na
jomaykulit: yup
graphics man: ano un company sent or they are going to stay there for a long time?
jomaykulit: 3mos
jomaykulit: cno
jomaykulit: ibng comp un knila.. they wil do xsteel…. ergo, resigned here
jomaykulit: c kat 3 mos lng
graphics man: aok…. kala ko she will stay here for a long time. do u have her number?
jomaykulit: teka po.. roaming niya lang mweron
jomaykulit: ################
graphics man: ####################
graphics man: un dito ha!
graphics man: mahal tawag kapag long distance
jomaykulit: nyek
jomaykulit: wla man loang roaming
jomaykulit: i gave her
ur
number
graphics man: aok
graphics man: ano work nya?
jomaykulit: qs
jomaykulit: kw ba?
jomaykulit: i saw
ur
pics..
jomaykulit: congrats
graphics man: congrats for what?
graphics man: i design villas and warehouses.
jomaykulit: may award k db??
jomaykulit: i mean congrats for the camel..hahaha
jomaykulit: joke
graphics man: tpos kinukulit ako ng boss ko kumaha ng driving license para mag site inspection na ako
graphics man: hehehe
graphics man: i ung award
graphics man: wala un… madali lang naman mag graphic design
jomaykulit: at least.. hehehe
jomaykulit: hoepfullly everything goes well for you.. =)
jomaykulit: so baket single ka ngayon??
jomaykulit: hehehe
graphics man: hehehehe…… mahirap ang long distance relationship
jomaykulit: gnun????
jomaykulit: shucks
jomaykulit: bkit mahirap??
graphics man: but we are still special for each other
jomaykulit: dnt u fear na magmahal xa ng iba????
graphics man: it is one of the risk of having a long distance relationship
graphics man: if we are meant for each other we will be together no matter what
jomaykulit: dude.. some people get married and eventually separate..
jomaykulit: it is by how you hold and sacifice being away from each other
jomaykulit: not putting your relationship into a test…
graphics man: we are not married and we still are young to explore things around us
graphics man: but it is a good insight of a relationship
jomaykulit: ano ang mahirap??
graphics man: ha?
graphics man: i didnt get your point?
jomaykulit: ano ang mahirap sa long dist?
graphics man: being apart….. iba kse un voice lang un naririnig mo and iba rin un being there with the person
graphics man: lagi kse kami magkasama kahit nun college and khit nun nagwowork pa kami
graphics man: hindi mo kami mahihiwalay… so mahirap n biglang nagkalayo kayo
jomaykulit: what u are just avoiding is the pain..
graphics man: yup
graphics man: pain of being not together
jomaykulit: u made yourselves unattached.. Thus avoiding the commitment… and partial-loyalty..
graphics man: we still are not closing our door….
graphics man: you are correct… we already talked about that but it didnt change the fact that we really miss each other company and we can’t do anything about it
jomaykulit: so ino-open niyo ang sarili niyo sa iba?
graphics man: yup
graphics man: hehehe…. iba ksi un andun ka na sa position na un and iba rin un iniisip nyo pa lang
graphics man: before i left kala namin we are strong enough na to overcome the challenges but 1yr is too long
graphics man: iba kse un feeling na when you are lonely you are looking for the person you love and you wnt her to be here for you but a call is not enough for the loneliness to go away
jomaykulit: gnunnn??
jomaykulit: so u gave up?
graphics man: you might still not get the whole picture bcoz you haven’t experienced it but i know someone who felt the same way
graphics man: and it is my sister
graphics man: look what happened next….
graphics man: they got married last feb that is why i took my vacation……
jomaykulit: dre… i also have a long dist rel eh..
jomaykulit: what happened sknla?
graphics man: we cannot tell
graphics man: what will happen next
jomaykulit: they forgot that the purpose of gettin married is to be together..
jomaykulit: may plan naman cgro sila.. and not let themselves.. u know…. stray
graphics man: aok… then it is good for you
graphics man: we are not closing our doors for others and we are not closing our doors for each other…
graphics man: they also been apart for 1.5 yrs and both of them have different relationship during that years….
graphics man: but still they end up together
jomaykulit: i think… i will only understand better if i have reached the height of loneliness
graphics man: yup…..
graphics man: san ba nagwowork un bf mo?
jomaykulit: hk
jomaykulit: i just believe dude.. that you only have to give up if you dnt love a person anymore..
graphics man: i have 3yr contract
jomaykulit: sandali lang yan
jomaykulit: ilang yrs knb jan?
jomaykulit: 3 na db?
jomaykulit: hehe
graphics man: 1yr
jomaykulit: awww
jomaykulit: k lng yan..
graphics man: hehehe…. i still have 2 yrs on my contract
jomaykulit: sigh’
jomaykulit: are u wishing for smthing else pb?
jomaykulit: eh uuwi k dn aman dito..
graphics man: if you love the person you don’ want her or him to be stuck on something which you know she will be lonely. if she or him decided to stay with you even if you are no longer attached then you really are meant for each other
graphics man: 2yrs is still long
jomaykulit: then one of you gave up..
graphics man: if she or him have a relationship during the years and she or him decided to come back to you then it is sweeter…..
jomaykulit: dude sakit nun..
graphics man: it is our decision
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graphics man: you are right
graphics man: it is hard to unlove the person if you really love the person
graphics man: but life must go on with or withour him/her
jomaykulit:
graphics man: hehehe…. hirap magets no
graphics man: nung una same tayo nang point of view but it is really hard with my situation today
jomaykulit: i just dont get why two people who loves each other need to separate when there are no third parties…
jomaykulit: grrrrrrrrr
graphics man: i still don’t know if im going to stay here until i save enough money to come back to the phil and have my own business
graphics man: hirap kse when nasanay ka na medyo malaki un sweldo mo compared staying there in the phil
graphics man: hanap hanapin mo
graphics man: hehehe… hirap talaga to forger someone you love
jomaykulit: count your age against the time you wish to be settled.. you’ll know
graphics man: when you have a really wonderful relationship when you are still together
jomaykulit: nweiz..it was a mutual decision naman
graphics man: yup… i want to get married at the age of 28
graphics man: nakakalungkot but that is life
jomaykulit: sugar thats like 3 yrs from now!!!
jomaykulit: estimate how much u can earn by then
graphics man: hehehe… i already estimated it but the problem is that i don’t have someone else right now
graphics man: hehehe…
jomaykulit: who’s the Idi*** who gave up the person he loves?????
jomaykulit: ngayon naghahanap k ng iba…..?
graphics man: nope
graphics man: im just working here
jomaykulit: so just technically.. you dnt own her so you say "you hav nobody…."
jomaykulit: fine
graphics man: hehehe…. bkit parang you are irritated?
jomaykulit: wla lang’
jomaykulit: i dunno
jomaykulit: maybe i just fear ending up a relationship im starting to believe will last.
graphics man: then believe it will last…..
graphics man: don’t look on other relationship…. coz we look things differently….
graphics man: love your man like there will be no more tomorrow….
jomaykulit: yeah.. it figures
jomaykulit: hahha
jomaykulit: like how?
jomaykulit: hows to love a man like no tomorrow???
jomaykulit: ahahah
graphics man: just say to him that you are always there for him and that you will be waiting for him when he go back home
graphics man: kaw na bahala dun….. me i treated her as if she is my princess…. i gave her all….
graphics man: maybe our situation is different from yours…..
jomaykulit: maybe
graphics man: so wag ka masyado pa apekto sa mga sinabi ko sayo
jomaykulit: hahaha
graphics man: bakit maybe?
graphics man: hehehe… ilang taon na ba kyo?
jomaykulit: before my current bf kasi…. i was very very scared. Aalalahanin mo ibang tao.
jomaykulit: la 6mos plng
graphics man: scared of what?
jomaykulit: mxdo complicated yun dati. Ang gulo gulo.
jomaykulit: i ddnt believe in what i have until it was gone.
graphics man: don’t be scared to love….. love will definitely bring you happiness but it will also bring pain and saddness
graphics man: that is how it goes
graphics man: mahirap kse na isang araw sabihin mo sa sarili mo what if i gave him all my love? will we last forever?
graphics man: love is risk, we don’t know what will happen…. just love the person and don’t think that your love will not last
graphics man: only time will tell what will happen
jomaykulit: kaya nga..
jomaykulit: mas alam ko na ngayon..
jomaykulit: true
jomaykulit: but u can also make things happen naman.. hindi un dedepend ka dun sa isa palibhasa alam mong mahal na mahal ka niya and ti[ong akala mo hindi ka iiwan.
graphics man: kami dalwa ni sugar…. we still don’t know if we are going to end up together again but we both know that we had a perfect relationship anyone could ever imagine. its just our situation is different now. we are better when we are together
jomaykulit: gnun?
jomaykulit: why make urselves lesser
jomaykulit: i mean
graphics man: yup, we hardly even fight….
jomaykulit: ahh kasi hindi na kyo mgkmsa ngayon
graphics man: if we had fight we resolve it within a day….
jomaykulit: kya hindi better. Buti pa kayo.
graphics man: yup…
graphics man: mahirap i-solve un problem if you really are far from each other and if you have problems you dont have the person to be there for you physically….
graphics man: hey…. i have to go now…. madami pa akong gagawin dito sa bahay….
graphics man: kailangan maglaba….
jomaykulit: yuck..
jomaykulit: haha..
jomaykulit: thanks dre
jomaykulit: pauwi na din dito..
jomaykulit:
4pm
na
jomaykulit: ciao
mejo magulo pero anyway, madami tayong pwedeng sabihin about Love. Pero basta ang LOVE it is sustained by action, it is a pattern of devotion in the things we do for the other everyday (p65, the wedding, Nicholas spark). LDR is i think, at it’s best, a quite challenging relationship to maintain. Building one is not purely natural. One also has to learn the skills. Being in one right now I think will have it’s rules:
1. because of the distance, each should make a way to let the other feel na hindi sya nakakalimutan. Oo na, naiinitindihan na mahirap ng communication, but it’s different when we make the effort be felt.
2. even though we know that the other think of us (a lot), it’s still different kung sasabihin mo ito. The little I miss you’s and/or how are you’s. Lalo na sa girls, they always want to hear na mahal mo sila. For LDR’s the little things really do count.
3. the word I think is TRUST and COMMUNICATION. It are the key requirements for a successful. LDR. Ano lang naman ang madalas na text gayong kayo ay magkalayo db?
4. Also, giving the assurance na mahal natin sila. Of course, we tell the words sincerely not just for the sake na sinasabi lang.
5. it’s nice cgro to re-affirm your love and commitment to one another. Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen listen listen.
6. put QUALITY whenever together kasi bihira na nga magkasama.. wla pang quality. Don’t forget to be romantic. That’s the theme of the relationship db? Hindi to platonic.
and so fort.. madaming rules and I’m still trying to learn about it. I don’t want to sound expert here. No matter how hard it gets, don’t let the distance pull you apart. Break away kung WALA ng LOVE existing or cgro if the promise of a “future” can not be sustained anymore.
Tis blog I have read, is very encouraging.. would like to share it here.. angkol clonie
sana
ok lang ha.. hehe
i dont want to sound pedantic, bitter, proud, self-righteous, guilty.
in fact i dont want to sound anything at all. in spite of the fact that those are, in sum, the very things that i feel right now.
i just wanna say something. and something i will say.
this to all those who are maintaining long-distance relationships.
DO NOT GIVE A F**K about what other people say.
opinions are like ass-holes, everyone has them. and the best-intentioned advice-givers do not even see the bigger picture, nor care what road your relationship takes. and why? because they have troubles of their own to take care of. and more often than not, they don’t even take the advices they give.
F**K them.
magastos ang LDR, so what? pera ba nila? maraming nangengelam. hilaw naman sa karanasan.
i have been through three failed LDRs in my time.
tried my best to keep it afloat, heroic, blood-sweat-and-tears effort. ended up losing a job because of it. and for what? zero.
am i the wiser for it? NO. am i scared to enter into an LDR again? NO.
in fact, i am in one right now. going on three weeks. trying to keep it. it is not a walk in the park. but it will work, given enough reason and enough perseverance. it will.
i have a total of six-and-a-half-years of failed LDRs under my belt, and i dare anyone to beat that one and tell me all hope is lost for LDRs.
permit me to tell you a story, and hope you will learn from it.
first LDR, almost 3 months together, 2 years away. nothing heavy.
endless phone calls, internet, saw another one who looks just like her on our second year, goodbye LDR.
second LDR. two years together, almost 3 years away. pilipinas lang this time hindi abroad.
she went to CDO as she was reassigned to a better post, then to cebu. i followed her like a faithful dog his master.
plane fare every weekend kasi sayang ang days pag nag bus or barko.
i pay papapunta, sya pauwi. una madalas pa, habang tumatagal dumadalang na.
leave ako, leave sa. pagka-ubos ng leave AWOL na kahit alam na meron ng memo pag-balik.
this went on for the longest time. we were bone-tired of it. she wanted me to transfer, but i loved my job.
she hated my job, i hated hers. we ended up hating each other.
i was forced to quit it because of too many absences from work. but after all of that mess, we parted.
third one, 1 year 3 months together, 3 months away.
she moved to a better job in manila. i was in law school.
quit school, quit job, to be with her. habol si lolo sa manila. i was hellbent on not letting this one slip away like the other two.
konting away, poof. gone.
but that’s me. and call me a fool, but i never learned anything.
or HAVE I?
like many things in life, a relationship’s life always hangs in a balance, and it is in the way you maintain it that either kills it or keeps it alive.
it is never the distance, never the expense, never the loneliness. love can overcome that.
but trust, fidelity, compatibility, THESE are the real issues.
LDR does not end with DISTANCE, no sir.
it ends you ARE TOGETHER, if you are lucky, nay, STEADFAST enough to withstand the stress of it all.
who says na pag-na survive nyo na ang LDR at pag-umuwi na kung sino man ang umalis eh di na kayo mag-hihiwalay? hahaha! how myopic is that?
SO.
you ask, is there a difference between these relationship and something where you have never even met the person — like only over the internet and e-mail? NO.
the same risks. the same promises of undying love.
the same ekla-vouz and chuvalas-chula na maririnig mo from one end of the phone to the other.
why be afraid of getting hurt; will it kill you? NO.
are you a poorer person because you lost someone because of LDR? NO.
shy away from LDR? NO.
it is like shying away from love itself.
love lesser when you are in LDR? NO.
love to the fullest or it is not love at all.
the truth is, the feircer your love is, the better chances you get.
yes, you’re just living on a prayer.
but that is better than none.
and anyone who says otherwise can sh*t in their hat and wear it backwards for all i care.
Very well said - /jom
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