shi*t, truth, and everything in between

Whatever the situation in your marriage is right now, this surely is for all married people… And is surely worth sharing to your friends.

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DID WE MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.

Here’s the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love… because it’s happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling is love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That’s why we have the ____expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable… you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"… not just a feeling.

Somewhere last month, as I was packing our stuff in our old place, I found these calendars with pictures of saints. Then I noticed that every date has a saint on it (probably, the feast say of that particular saint). Instinctively, of course I went on to look at mine and Lo and Behold…… it is Saint Joan of Arc’s day. And I was like.. “huwhaaat?” after all these years and I’ll have to find out for myself the history of my name. I remember mama telling me my name should have been Isabela but we were living in Isabela so for people who couldn’t recognize beautiful names, they’ll be teasing me I was named after “lalawigan ng Isabela”. (sorry for the repetition. It’s puking though). So you must get the idea. Anyway, she could have used Isabel instead (frustrated name). I even remembered she told me, how did I got “Joan May” (plain and simple).

So there, it was like a revelation at that moment. And my mind was “All this time…”

But then again, Paulo Ambrosio (my brother next to me) got his name from St. Ambrose (mark Dec 7 as his feast day). My parents had been thinking a good name for us after all. Now, I can answer where my name come from =0)

After that, I was shopping at Alabang Town Center and checked out BOOKS & MAGS selling P9.00 books.  Scrambling through the pile, I saw Bernard Shaw’s Saint Joan. I went on to purchase it. For everybody who doesn’t know Saint Joan…

Here’s a brief intro about her:

Joan of Arc(Jehanne Darc (the d’Arc spelling is a later variant)), a village girl from the Vosges, was born about jan 6, 1412 in Domremy, Lorraine to a peasant family during the Hundred Years’ War between France and England; burnt for heresy, witchcraft, and sorcery in May 30, 1431; rehabilitated after a fashion in 1456; designated venerable in 1904; declared blessed in 1908; and finally canonized in May 16,1920 by Pope Benedict XV . She is the most notable warrior saint in the Christian calendar, and the queerest fish among the eccentric worthies of the Middle ages. Though a professed and mostpious Catholic, and the projector of  Crusade against the Husites, she was in fact one of the first Protestant martyrs. national heroine of France and a saint of the Catholic Church. She stated that she had visions, which she believed came from God, and she used these to inspire Charles VII’s troops to retake most of his dynasty’s former territories which had been under English and Burgundian dominance during the Hundred Years’ War.

I haven’t finished the book so I still don’t understand where the Arc comes from but I saw that it is interesting. Maybe after finishing articles about Da Vinci hysteria.

websites about Joan of arc:

http://www.joan-of-arc.org/joanofarc_short_biography.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joan_of_Arc

http://www.myclassiclyrics.com/artist_biographies/Joan_of_Arc_Biography.htm

http://joan-of-arc.org/joanofarc_life_summary.html

THE UNIVERSAL FISHING LAWS

"Just as there are laws of nature like gravity, the
universal laws of success can predict outcomes and
explain why some people triumph while others fail.
If you learn to live in harmony with these laws, they
will work in your favor."
Brian Tracy
Author of The Universal Laws of Success and Achievement (1992)

Criswell Freeman, author of The Fisherman’s Guide to Life, wrote, "Only when we approach the water with respect do we gain its fullest measure of enjoyment. The fish aren’t always biting, but Mother Nature is always watching. So we’d best behave ourselves." To help you maintain the integrity of the sport, here are the universal fishing laws that will guide you to love:

THE LAW OF DESTINY: Your decisions about what to focus on and what to do or not do will ultimately determine your destiny. While the unenlightened women will continue to rely on luck, the wise ones will plant the seeds of good decisions so they can reap the benefits of a great love life later on.

THE LAW OF RECIPROCATION: If a woman wants to feel cherished by a man, then she will need to understand and appreciate him first. If you tend to criticize, condemn, or complain about a man, then you will have very little chance of being cherished in return. Seek to be more understanding and less judgmental and you will start turning things around in your love life.

THE LAW OF INDIRECT EFFORT: Seek too hard and you shall not find. In order to catch a man, you must be sure that you are not too direct in your approach. Change your focus beyond the idea of catching a man to becoming a more loving, attractive, and charismatic person and you will have a better chance of gaining the side-benefit of acquiring the love of a man.

THE LAW OF AVERAGES: For a given number of attempts, there is a certain ratio of successes. You can increase your number of successes by increasing your number of attempts and by getting better at what you do. What that means to the enlightened woman is to succeed at love she must never give up and master the skills and improve her perceptions of love.

THE LAW OF OPPOSITE REACTION: Sometimes, your intended actions will create an opposite reaction. For instance, if you want to impress a man, don’t be overly impressed by him. If you want a man to show real commitment to you, get him to fear your lack of commitment to him first.

THE LAW OF LOVE: In order to receive the love of others, you must first love yourself. You cannot give the gift of love to another person unless you already possess that gift inside of you. Develop more compassion for your own struggle to succeed and decide to love and accept yourself as you are now.

*The Bottom Line: Respect and obey the universal laws of love and
life. That way the natural forces will be with you, not against you.

*this in time will be lengthen and filled up and will be edited often

If so many men, so many minds, certainly so many hearts, so many kinds of love   - Leo Tolstoy

"Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing."

if love is a choice… who would choose such exquisite pain? - anna and the king

"Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted.
Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another’s heart,
or its flame burns low."

~Henry Ward Beecher~

immature love says i love u bec i need you.. mature love says i need you bec i love u

dont aim at success, for success like happiness can not be pursued; itis the unnteded side effect of ones personal dedication to a course greater than onceself.

train yourself to let go of all you fear of losing - yoda, starwars 3

"Desire is the starting point of all achievement,

not a hope,

not a wish,

but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything."

-         Napoleon Hill

The journey in between what you are and who you are now becoming is where the dance of Life really takes place. - Barbara De Angelis

"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail."

~ Confucius ~

FAILURE is the only oppurtunity to begin more intelligently

"Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves … Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point it, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps, then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing…"

~Blaise Pascal~

Billy Graham

"The Spirit-filled man knows only the fear of God, but he has no other fear."

"The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost."

~ G. K. Chesterton

A. W. Tozer

"True faith is not the intellectual ability to visualize unseen things to the satisfaction of our imperfect minds; it is rather the moral power to trust Christ."

"Love, like a river, will cut a new path whenever it meets an obstacle."

~ Crystal Middlemas

"I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear."

~ Oprah Winfrey

I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming that comes when you finish the life of the emotions and of personal relations; and suddenly find - at the age of fifty, say - that a whole new life has opened before you, filled with things you can think about, study, or read about…It is as if a fresh sap of ideas and thoughts was rising in you.

- Agatha Christie, "An Autobiography", 1977

Money can’t buy love, but it improves your bargaining position.

Christopher Marlowe (1564-1593)

"The greatest tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love."

~

W. Somerset

Maugham

"You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love."

~ Henry Drummond

"People need loving the most when they deserve it the least."

~John Harrigan~

Being kind is more important than being right..

One should keep his words soft and tender, beause tomorrow he may have to eat them

To ignore the facts.. does not change the fact.

it is only best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is life threatening situation.

"Love doesn’t give a person what they deserve, but what they need."

"The truth is that there is only one terminal dignity - love. And the story of a love is not important - what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity."

~ Helen Hayes

For "true love" is inexhaustible;

the more you give, the more you have.

And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead,

the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flows.

~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

"love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, not quick tempered not brood over injury, does not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoice in truth, it bears all things, believe all things, hopes all things, endures all things" 1 corinth 13:4

"If you truly love someone, then prove it!

Even though she/he doesn’t have feelings for you

True love was being measured by giving all the perfect care for that someone.

And you didn’t expect anything in return."

"Friends should know your hopes and dreams and always be inspired. They’re not supposed to give up on you when they think your ideas have tired."Trouble is a part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t

give the person who loves you a chance to love you enough.

~

Dinah

Shore

~

For "true love" is inexhaustible;

the more you give, the more you have.

And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead,

the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flows.

~Antoine de Saint-Exupery~

Being ignored is more understandable.. i think the more painful side is that in the end.. the love you showed and the love that the person seem to give you and everything is just a lie..

Words and hearts should be handled with care, for words when spoken and hearts when broken are the hardest thing to repair

-          anon

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Love knows no reasons

love knows no lies

love defies all reasons

love has no eyes

love is not blind…

it sees,

but it doesnt mind

We all want to fall in love. Why?

Because that experience makes us feel completely alive

where every sense is heightened,

and every emotion is magnified.

Our everyday reality is shattered

and we are flying into the heavens.

It may only last a moment, an hour, or an afternoon,

but that doesn’t diminish it’s value,

because we are left with memories

that we treasure for the rest of our lives.

-           The Mirror Has Two Faces –

-          

No matter how full a reservoir of maxims one may possess, and no matter how good one’s sentiments may be, if one have not taken advantage of every concrete opportunity to act, one’s character may remain entirely unaffected for the better. With good intentions, hell proverbially is paved.

- William James, ""Talks to Teachers" ch. 8 The Laws of Habit ", Lectures 1892, printed 1899

"Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfill them, for it alone takes them and joins them by what is deepest in themselves."

~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

"Loving someone with all our hearts isn’t all that

it takes to make a relationship last.

Sometimes, even if we prove our worth in many ways,

seen and unseen, we still cannot guarantee of permanence

and loyalty in our relationships."

~Joe D Mango~

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,

and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender,

be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly;

and listen to others,

even to the dull and the ignorant;

they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons;

they are vexatious to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,

you may become vain or bitter,

for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;

it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,

for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;

many persons strive for high ideals,

and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love,

for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,

it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,

gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,

be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe

no less than the trees and the stars;

you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you,

no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,

whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations,

in the noisy confusion of life,

keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,

it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

"A relationship will always need…..trust and faith.

Trust, so you could keep a relationship strong, and

Faith, so you can build a strong foundation of

love that could weather all storms to make

it last for as long as you wish to."

~Joe D Mango~

"A woman unsatisfied must have luxuries. But a woman who loves a man would sleep on a board."

~ D. H. Lawrence

"Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within the reach of every hand."

~ Mother Teresa

"Love looks through a telescope;

envy through a microscope."

~ Josh Billings

"I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies."

~ Pietro Aretino

" A relationship is a two way street.

It’s never all your fault, nor is it all the fault of your partner.

Both of you have to work together to make it work.

And, remember,

The best relationship is one in which your LOVE exceeds your NEEDS

for each other."

"If I was the one who was loving you….

The only tears you’d cry would be tears of joy.

And if I was by your side,

You’ll never know one lonely night

And if it was my arms you were running to,

I’d give you love in these arms of mine.

"If I was the one in your life."

"The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called LOVE

and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that

for you the world is TRANSFORMED! "

~J. Krishnamurti~

"Real love isn’t measured by the satisfaction that a person gets from a relationship.

Relationships are built solely on the fulfillment of one’s personal desires don’t last.

Those that do are built on the foundation of love, understanding,

acceptance, and most importantly, respect."

~Joe D Mango~

Look into the eyes of the one you love, you will see the peaceful dove. But if you can not find the dove, With all it’s peace and all it’s love. Then where will you find the one to be with forever? I’d go to the ends of the earth however, But with all the time you take will he have left without you? No time to take the chance to wait, to find your loving soul mate.

"Love has no errors, for all errors are the want for love."

~William Law~

Change is invigorating! If you don’t accept new challenges, you become complacent and lazy! Your life atrophies! New experiences lead to new questions and solutions! Change forces us to experiment and adapt! That’s how we learn and grow! - CalviN of CalviN and HobbEs

Everytime I think of you

I see the good things we’ve been through

Everytime I’m with you

The dreams I long for come true

Everytime fear comes on your way

I’m always here to stay

Everytime problems make you cry

I’ll be here to help you by

Every word in here is true

and I made them for you

For you are very important and I can’t

live by wIthout letting you that I love you

"Sometimes, loving someone means giving him/her the freedom to choose

who and where he/she wants to be.

This may be painful, but still be thankful, because the heartaches, the tears,

the gloomy days and even the fruitless years helped you grow into a strong and wonderful person, not a bitter one."

"We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person." ~

Somerset

Maugham

"The fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself… & no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity…" - The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho)

LOVE, in the final analysis , is wisdom.

~E.W. Kenyon~

"The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness
which becomes at times almost insupportable."

~Victor Hugo~

during a boring moment, I thought of something: The hardest lesson in life is to be good in getting used to spoken/unspoken goodbyes.

"I have decided to stick with Love . ………….
Hate is too great a burden to bear "…

~Martin Luther King Jr.~

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose." ROMANS 8:28

"When people walk away from you …….. Let them go.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody who leaves you.

And i t doesn’t mean that their are bad persons.

It just means that their part in your story is over..
( i guess, it would be easier to accept if we always bear
this in mind after a heartbreak…)

"As it has always been said, we should embrace love when
it comes knocking on our doors and willingly let go of it when it says goodbye.

We shouldn’t regret that we’ve lost it. Be thankful that for once in our lives it
has dwelled in our hearts and made us happy."

~Joe D Mango

OHAYOGOZAIMAZU!!!!

"A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy."

~ George Jean Nathan

could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would seem less wondrous than your joy — kahlil gibran

"Love is a promise, Love is a souvenir,
once given never forgotten, never let it disappear."

~John Lennon~

"Sometimes its’s good that we let the pain we feel remain for a time.

Let it be the medium for the healing of our hearts.

Forgive and the pain will go away, accept and have a new turn in life

and love again until we find the person who can share forever with us."

~jOE d mANGO~

"Love isn’t love until we share it, but the real fulfillment in life is finding love
and sharing it with someone who can freely and without any conflict love us faithfully in return."

~Joe D Mango~

And with love, there are no rules. Some may try to control their emotions and develop strategies for their behavior; others may turn to reading books of advice from "experts" on relationships but this is all folly. The heart decides, and what it decides is all that really matters."

But love is always new. Regardless of whether we love once, twice, or a dozen times in our life, we always face a brand-new situation. Love can consign us to hell or to paradise, but it always takes us somewhere. We simply have to accept it, because it is what nourishes our existence. If we reject it, we die of hunger, because we lack the courage to stretch out a hand and pluck the fruit from the branches of the tree of life. We have to take love where we find it, even if that means hours, days, weeks of disappointment and sadness.

"Sometimes we just have to control our feelings for someone.

Truth is, our feelings doesn’t know what’s right or wrong.

That’s why our minds reason with us so there can be balance.

Otherwise, we would always trip as we aimlessly follow……..

……………………what our hearts dictate."

~Joe D Mango~

"Kung talagang mahal mo ang isang tao,

wag mong isipin kung ano ang gagawin mo pag nawala sya.

Ang dapat mong pag-isipan kung anong gagawin mo

para hindi siya mawala."

"The reason why we refuse to let go of a person we love is because we are afraid to be alone.

But if that person doesn’t love us , then being with him or her doesn’t make any difference.

We would have someone beside us , but still be alone.

The real essence of a relationship lies in the commitment of two people, and not just one.

It lies in the basic foundation of love that is shared by two and not just felt by one."

~Joe D Mango~

"No matter what kind of a woman she may be , she will

show her nice side to the man that she loves!"

"Love is not ruined by a single failure or won by a single touch.
It is lifetime endeavor in which we are always learning, discovering and growing."

~Doctor Amor~

Life is not measured by the number of breaths

we take, but by the moments that take our

breath away.

if you aim at nothing. you wll hit at it - —dan benson

thE rEaL mEaNiNg oF "fAtE" iS nOt aT tHe bEgiNNiNg bUt aT tHe EnD..
"FaTe" iS A bUiLdiNg bRidGe oF cHAnCe fOr sOmEoNe yOu LoVE..

JuSt as CaSpEr OnCe sAiD, cAn i kEEp yOu?..

LOVE is just a word… ..and sometimes a feeling…
but…
if you express it right and share it with someone…
it will not be just a word….

its YOU and HER/HIM….

The first time my heart was broken I thought I was through;

I swore I’d never love again and believe me this was true,

but when you walked into my life the second your eyes met mine,

I knew you were worth loving, just like before, just like the first time…. and even more..

~Becky Rheault~

"Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like you do when nobody’s watching."

By loosing a battle u may find

new way to win the war

the best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really. For as gold is tested in fire, and so will love be perfected in pain.

Our minds sometimes see what our hearts wish were true.

hindi ka nalugi sa panahon. madmai kang natutunan. - ms.lody

If you want something you never had, do something you have never done.

Don’t go the way life takes you.

Take the life the way you go.

And remember you are born to live and

not living because you are born.

"It is true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it,

but i t’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing

until it arrives…..

Like LOVE…"

You made me smile today

Cute, cute, cute messages

You really make my day

Eventhough in my heart

I believe that they are really

Nothing to you…..

Yet I value every word,

Every phrase, every punctuation

Coz deep inside I also hope

That one day

Those are no longer words

No longer phrases

No linger punctuations

But expressions

Of feelings…..

Of love….. of affection…..

If a relationship is truly meant for you, your

love will find a way to make it happen, and God

will be

there to make sure it will stay.

"LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE

YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN THE COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU"

"We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment,an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn’t diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives."

"Constancy in love is a perpetual inconstancy, in which the heart attaches itself successively to each of the lover’s qualities, giving preference now to one, now to another."

~ François Duc de La Rochefoucauld

I’m not ashamed of wanting somebody to love — I never have been, because I had it once. But maybe I never really had it."

"Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing."

~ Mother Teresa

"the way to love anything is to realize it might be lost"

"Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves … Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point it, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps, then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

This is a delayed issue but anyways, Just this Tuesday.. 23^rd, we had a birthday bash in the office. I say WE because there’re 5 of us who contributed for the food. I ddnt volunteer but it turned out I was the one doing the errands- ordering 2 cakes from goldilocks, food stuff from amber, grocerieing for plates, and forks, and cups, and ice. Good thing sir rody had a car so it took us quicky time to drive to south supermarket ( a highend supermart in the middle of almost desserted filinvest village). People got the thinking I was paying for everything.. hahaha people kept greeting me. Halos wala nako nagawang work. It was fun day for me. I think this is the pa-birthday that had everyone in spirits—cake greeting from Charlie Phelps (sir rody’s idea. Check the guy in spring green polo and spectacles. The one at the back of the guy.. no. not the one holding the cake. that’s mark nelson, our special guest… joke. that’s sir mike. i owed him this pic). Beside me is ms nora. Lead of the yansab project. Beside her is adamae. My batchmate. Hehe. And oh.. the celebrants are pretty moi, sir rody,

Arnold

acoba (he’s top 14^th in the board. Same with joel dc. He’s the guy beside the man looking at the cake. No, not the red shirt’ guy), ms.

Elizabeth

(not in the pic), and mam aris.. (as in clarissa tan, the one and only wife of sir Jerome tan. She used to work with maunsell so sir didi knows her personally =o) btw, she’s DE4..well, she’s not in the pic. sorry). of well, i  look tired in the pic. this is  the only copy of the event that had me in it..

I had been home alone for about two weeks. The two boys are home havin’ vacation at grandma’s house. Such peace. I could rent whatever vcd I want (because when I rent, I will have to consider the boys’ taste). I took the freedom to rent movies I have been eyeing since yore. There’s:

Under The Tuscan Sun which stars Diane lane of the unfaithful..  I like the movie =) it’s about a divorced woman. A writer. She went on a trip to

Tuscany

via gays on the go.. to forget about her ex-hub. crazily bought a villa there… and learned a lot of stuff.. falling in love again.. and moving on again, making life, and discovering that life has many chances and all you have to do is pick one. I took a line from Marcelo saying, “when you see something beautiful.. Hold on to it.. Until you have to let go”. How strong can we must be?

Women On Top. If you feel like your bfs/husbands are taking you for granted, a little push may help you from this movie. For the quick obscene mind, it really does mean “women on top” when doing it. But in retrospection (naks!) it means women who can drive their own life, and have the guts to leave the relationship. I found this story unique as I am fond of listening to samba (Mexican/ braxilian music) plus a love story cooked in the kitchen.

cruel intentions 3, very sexy and adultly but I don’t recommend it. Imagine a girl who does sex like it’s nothing (sometimes for game), found love, and had her body for a cause to put somebody to prison? I can’t categorize her either protagonist or antagonist.

gigi, an old film, dated 1958. It had a star marked with “winner”. It’s an old, of course, American film, shot in france, ithad a lot of singing, plot is common… well, bottomline, I wasn’t fascinated, instead, bored me to sleep. Though I finished it, I almost swear not to watch old movies again.

when in rome, stars the two olsen twins.. well, i took the movie for a cinematic trip to roma italy.. mama had been there, told me she’d be taking me there, but.. well, she was gone before I even take the exams.. anyways, see lizzie Maguire movie.

So Close, everybody saw this and I ddnt. Ok lang, seems like Chinese/Taiwanese/ Japanese are trending sexywomen killer movies. it is something like…… darn, I forgot the movie.. but it’s about 2 sisters who are hired killers and gets away in every mission thru their father’s invention.. something like the gprs.

Miracle, stars kurt russel, mmm, story abt how the

united states

beat the

USSR

in hockey.. well after 69 years… worth makin it a movie.. sort of boring. i like remember the titans than this one. Are all coaches like that??

Fatal attraction… you should let your boyfriends or husbands watch this. If it scared them..  then good. But if they are passive and seem to say.. “it depends”.. or whatever..” just not scared” you have to make a stronger anchoring to your man. Believe me, even the kindest of men is not scared of flirting or going there but not actually doing it.

This turned out into a movie review after all. Popcorn missing.

Still 20 days to go and yes.. I feel late posting this.. hahaha. Oh well. The first list i made are inexpensive. Within the means of my friends .. the second ones are (obviously) real costly.. but hey.. this is my wishlist. Wait till you have you have your own birthday..

list number 1:

pen/suppplies organizer

inspirational quotes dispenser

anything from powerbooks/goodwill/natl bookstore

            if it’s a book, it may be:

-         last order sa penguin by chris

                  martinez

-         coehlo books (medyo lang)

-         Nicholas sparks books

-         Madam proust and the koshner kitchen

-         The beach (novel)

-         Sophie and the rising sun

-         The curious incident of the dog in the night

-     art of war

-         The illiad or odyssey

-         Anything bestseller

-         chick flick is acceptable =)

-         this is my story

-         cookbooks

-         twisted by Jessica zafra

-         anything Robert kiyosaki

-         inspirational.. pls.. no action books, I get dizzy with all the descriptions

-         etcetera

cellphone load

trouser socks

coin purse

cute picture frame

makapal na photo album

cute stapler

wine glass

astig na coffee mug

stamps

office pillow

green/white  tee-shirt/blouse

vcd’s on my favorite movies (pls see profile)

mp3’s of the following: pieces of you by jewel, anything tori amos or soraya, trans/club mix/techno (mas maganda kung walang lyrics  =p)

list number 2:

digicam (nakow.. si paulo makikinabang nito!! hehehe)

cellphone

clothes

shoes

sandals (pwede yng gibi collection na bago hehe)

watch

perfume

spa kit

bathrobe

mp3 player

stackup drawer

oven toaster

full/half length mirror

badminton racket

badminton bag

tabletennis paddle (Double Happiness mas ok)

laptop

yacht

hehehe… mukhang mae-edit to lagi!!

oh…kung di maganda comment.. huwag na magpost…

well.. that’s just not all.. anything not included is still acceptable. After all, it is the thought that counts.. =0)

thank you in advance!!!

1. What does your friendster nickname mean?
j o A n – wla naman.. pa-ets lang hehehe

2. Who/what’s on your primary photo?
~ me in calatagan batangas beach

3. Who introduced friendster to you?
~marie

4. What’s your age?
~24

5. Are you a busy person?
~ yes

6. What are you wearing right now?
~ yellow taekwondo shirt and baby blue shorty shorts (mainit po.. hehe)

7. What is life to u?
~ life is fulfilling a purpose

8. What is love to you?
~ love is something that you give it away..

9. What happens if you wake up one morning to
~ to?

10. Who do you love?
~ God, my family and friends, adanlee

11. What makes you happy?
~ being loved

12. Can you rap?
~ uu

13. What do you hate most? WHO???
~ being selfish

14. If you MUST be an animal for ONE day, what will it be?
~ bird

15. Name ONE obvious quality you have..
~quality?? adapting

16. What’s the name of the song(s) that’s stuck in your head?
~ colorblind by counting crows

17. The slowest song u listened to today?
~ I can’t make you love me by Bonnie raitte

18. Are you happy today?
~ sort of

19. Who are you in your dreams?
~ iba-iba eh

20. Who makes you sad?
~

21. Name the last four things you have bought today:
~ big boxes, nestea iced tea, ponytail, icecubes

22. Name two things you USUALLY buy:
~ if it’s for myself, it would be, anything for the hair and .. (hirap ah.. I don’t really spend… I don’t buy anything on a regular basis.. ) maybe underwear…